You already know that true love is no longer a question of change, but of strategy, persistence and calculated risk. So, let's see of you've got game.
1. First thing first: why do you want to win?
A. Because it's fun to win (I'm a serial champion)
B. Because I'm lonely (well, why else?)
C. Because I'm not getting younger
D. Because I'm ready (been there, done that, now I'm ready for the big time)
2. Your game strategy is...
A. To find a partner who will love me, give me attention and take care of me
B. To find a partner to support me when I need it, both emotionally and financially
C. To find a partner with whom I can do lots of stuff together
D. To find a partner whom I can love satisfactorily
3. If you do win, who will you hold responsible for your happiness in the relationship?
A. Er... the landlord?
B. Him... I guess?
C. Us, I guess?
D. Me, I guess?
4. In order to create a mutually satisfying relationship, your game plan is to...
A. Accept no demands from him (I shouldn't have to go out of my way to please him)
B. Make no demands of him (he shouldn't have to go out of his way to please me)
C. Ask what he wants from me (as long as I keep giving, he will give in return)
D. Ask him for what I want (I cannot expect him to read my mind)
5. You believe in...
A. Love at first sight (I'll know if he's the one the moment I meet him)
B. Love at first bite (I'll know if he’s the one after a couple of dates)
C. Love at first light (I'll know if he's the one after spending a night with him)
D. Love at first fight (I'll know if he’s the one after a few squabbles)
6. How many times has your heart been broken in this game before?
A. Never (and I don't intend to ever let it happen)
B. Once (and that's quite enough, thank you)
C. A few times (I learn something new each time)
D. I don't keep count
7. Your ideal partner will...
A. Make me laugh, smile and sigh
B. Make me complete
C. Make me better than I am
D. Do all the above, plus 'make me cry' and 'make me mad'
8. To you, the best payoff to winning this game will be...
A. Living happily ever after
B. Not needing to look for someone to love again
C. Having a friend for life
D. Watching another person grow
9. What have you invested into the game so far?
A. My money and time
B. My money, time and energy
C. My money, time, energy and privacy
D. My money, time, energy, privacy and security
10. When was the last time you were in a serious (two years or more) relationship?
A. Never been in one before (why do you think I'm reading this?)
B. More than six months ago (but less than one year ago)
C. More than one year ago (but less than two years)
D. More than two years ago
11. When it comes to hard issues like financial status, religion and STDs, your game plan is to...
A. Never bring them up
B. Tackle them right after he says he love you
C. Tackle them as soon as you know you're falling in love with him
D. Tackle them before love is ever created
12. He says he loves you but that he's not ready for serious commitment. Your game plan is...
A. Forget about it! I'll find someone else!
B. Enjoy him and continue looking for someone else
C. Enjoy him until someone better finds you
D. Wait for him to be ready
13. If your goal is rudely snatched out before you get a chance to tell him you love him, your game plan is to...
A. Ruin his newfound bliss and bring him back to you
B. Tell him you love him and hope he changes his mind
C. Retreat into dark, damp hole and cry until tears stop
D. Move on, knowing that if he fits her, then he couldn't have fit you
14. He's terrible in bed, but otherwise, a gem of a guy. Your game plan is...
A. Ignore the sex and enjoy everything else about him
B. Give him a copy of Kamasutra
C. Read the Kamasutra yourself
D. Tell him he's terrible, and then read the Kamasutra together
15. Where is your favourite playground?
A. My school or workplace (we're supposed to 'find' each other, not look for each other)
B. The club circuit (I look my best when I'm clubbing)
C. My yoga class (if he wants me, he must love yoga)
D. Anywhere (it's not where you meet that counts, but who you meet)
16. Your goal is in sight, you've made up your mind: he's the one. Your next move is to...
A. Tell him I love him (it's now or never, right?)
B. Do the bump-and-grind (let's seal the deal, baby)
C. Move in with him
D. Take a break from him (I need to stay rational)
17. When a fight breaks out, your game plan is to...
A. Fight back tooth and nail and inflict irreparable emotional damage on him
B. Fight back, but retire if things get too bad
C. Keep quiet and forever hold my peace
D. Keep quiet and disclose my opinions later when things have cooled off
18. Your target partner...
A. Loves you unconditionally
B. Meets you lip-to-lip (and hip-to-hip)
C. Has a lot in common with you
D. Has strengths that complement your weakness
19. He is a spendthrift, whilst you are frugal. Your game plan is...
A. Take advantage of it (if he wants to buy me stuff, who am I to complaint?)
B. Ignore it (it's his money, after all)
C. Change it (his spending habits will affect my financial security too)
D. Accept it (and if I can't accept it, then I should look for someone else)
20. Compared to you, your ideal partner must:
A. Earn less than I do
B. Earn more than I do
C. Earn the same as I do
D. I don't care
21. How many real dates does it take before you decide if he's the one?
A. One (how many more does a girl need?)
B. Two to five (I'm easily bored)
C. Six to nine (my clock is ticking)
D. At least ten (but I don't really limit myself that way)
22. You think children are...
A. A pain in the rear end
B. Nice to see, but not to hold
C. Nice to hold, but not to keep
D. Nice to seem hold and keep
23. If you sense that a competitor has her sights on the same goal as you, your game plan is to...
A. Move in for the kill (as in him - better score before she does)
B. Move in for the kill (as in her - go flash your rump elsewhere, bitch!)
C. Know your enemy (she might make a good sparring partner)
D. Know your enemy (she might fit him batter than I)
24. In your past relationship, did you do the dumping, or were you the one dumped?
A. I've never been dumped
B. I wan the one dumped
C. I'd say 50-50
D. It's in the past, so who cares?
25. To you, the most important indicator of true love is in...
A. The chemistry of your first meaning
B. The resolution of your first conflict
C. The passion of your shared interests
D. The respect of your mutual differences
26. What is your relationship like with your past boyfriends?
A. Humph! (Don't ask!)
B. Cool (we’re not friends, but we're not enemies, either)
C. Friendly (we can talk about the weather if we want to)
D. Warm (how can you not cherish someone you once shared so much with?)
27. When the goings gets tough and the game seems like it will never end, who is your cheerleading couch?
A. Mummy
B. My best friend
C. My ex-boyfriend
D. Myself
28. When it comes to personal space, your plan is to...
A. Keep what's mine and let him have what's his
B. Keep what's mine and take some of what's his
C. Give him some of mine and let him keep what's his
D. Stretch our boundaries to accommodate each other's preferences
29. Are your parents still together?
A. No (they divorced yeas ago)
B. No (they only recently separated)
C. Yes (but its borderline togetherness
D. Yes (they seem happy most of the time)
30. Finally, when do you think your target partner will need you most?
A. When he's broke (of course)
B. When he wants to get laid
C. When he suffers a big disappointment (he'll need to pick-me-up)
D. When he suffers a confidence crisis (I'll need to remind him how great he is)
RESULTS
Mostly As: Playing to date
To you, the future of any romantic relationship is encapsulated in the first moment that you meet. That initial connection can happen because of sexual attraction, a meeting of minds, an emotional bond or even religious intensity.
Regardless of what it is that sparks it off, when you make a strong connection and your palm sweat and time stops, then you assume the person to be your lifelong prize and you make yourself ready to claim him.
Unfortunately, as you have no doubt learned already, a strong connection is not the same thing as being in love. Sorry, but there is no such thing as love at first sight, unless it is by pure coincidence.
Connection is important between any two people who want to pursue a relationship, but it is only the first step. You can connect with many people over the course of your lifetime, but is it only by following through on the rest of the steps that you can know if this is truly the love of your life.
Mostly Bs: Playing to mate
Exploring the playing field, experiencing different emotions with different people and enjoying the multifarious stimuli that come from all the experimenting make this game a joy to play. You are a player like the vast majority of women - an experienced dater who is now ready for something more. Strong connections are plenty but you know where is more to it than that.
You know, for example, the type of man that you are looking for. However, whilst you have a pretty good idea of what he must be to you, you have still not decided what you will be to him and the answer to that lies in how you love yourself. How you relate to your personal self sets the tone of how you relate to others, and is vitally important for a serious relationship to thrive.
If your objective is to play the game of love to win, then learning self-love is the first step you must take. Before you can roll dice or even place your playing piece on the board, you need to tap into the inner reaches of your heart and soul and discover all that you are worth.
Mostly Cs: Playing to love
Commitment to one man literally means One Man Only. Unfortunately, your answers belie a modus vivendi that is not yet ready for monogamy. In other words, you like your life the way it is, and are not yet ready to make the scarifies that a serious long-term relationship need in order to thrive. If you enjoy sex, for example, than you might be interested in settling down with one man because he makes the earth move for you. Sadly, even the spunkiest, most exciting sex partner can get a little dull around the tip after a while.
The same goes for shared passions like cooking, sports, hobbies or even work: if you hook up with him for no other reason than one or two common interests, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Why? Because people change, and their interests change with them. There is no guarantee that he will enjoy sex (or cooking, or badminton, or computer programming, or collecting match boxes) as much as you will in 10 years' time.
If a relationship is based upon shared activities and they crease, then what is left? A couple who comes together because of a shared love for skiing must be able to relate when the snow melts in the springtime.
Mostly Ds: Playing to win
The hallmark of every great winner is that she makes things happen instead of waiting for things to happen, which very aptly described you. You know the rules of the game very well. You don't actually fall under the spell of love, because active part in weaving the spell yourself, thereby creating the love you want, wish the person you want.
Love does not just happen. It needs to be created in much the same ways as you would create anything else. Love is created from your imagination, intention and development.
Love is a two-way street, and what you put into a relationship is as important - if not more so - than what you hope to get out of it. You know this instinctively. Once you meet the right man, you can count on it blossoming into a loving, long-term relationship that will be ready for all tests of time and circumstance, And since you are prepare to win, win you will.
by Adrienne
2.09am
1. First thing first: why do you want to win?
A. Because it's fun to win (I'm a serial champion)
B. Because I'm lonely (well, why else?)
C. Because I'm not getting younger
D. Because I'm ready (been there, done that, now I'm ready for the big time)
2. Your game strategy is...
A. To find a partner who will love me, give me attention and take care of me
B. To find a partner to support me when I need it, both emotionally and financially
C. To find a partner with whom I can do lots of stuff together
D. To find a partner whom I can love satisfactorily
3. If you do win, who will you hold responsible for your happiness in the relationship?
A. Er... the landlord?
B. Him... I guess?
C. Us, I guess?
D. Me, I guess?
4. In order to create a mutually satisfying relationship, your game plan is to...
A. Accept no demands from him (I shouldn't have to go out of my way to please him)
B. Make no demands of him (he shouldn't have to go out of his way to please me)
C. Ask what he wants from me (as long as I keep giving, he will give in return)
D. Ask him for what I want (I cannot expect him to read my mind)
5. You believe in...
A. Love at first sight (I'll know if he's the one the moment I meet him)
B. Love at first bite (I'll know if he’s the one after a couple of dates)
C. Love at first light (I'll know if he's the one after spending a night with him)
D. Love at first fight (I'll know if he’s the one after a few squabbles)
6. How many times has your heart been broken in this game before?
A. Never (and I don't intend to ever let it happen)
B. Once (and that's quite enough, thank you)
C. A few times (I learn something new each time)
D. I don't keep count
7. Your ideal partner will...
A. Make me laugh, smile and sigh
B. Make me complete
C. Make me better than I am
D. Do all the above, plus 'make me cry' and 'make me mad'
8. To you, the best payoff to winning this game will be...
A. Living happily ever after
B. Not needing to look for someone to love again
C. Having a friend for life
D. Watching another person grow
9. What have you invested into the game so far?
A. My money and time
B. My money, time and energy
C. My money, time, energy and privacy
D. My money, time, energy, privacy and security
10. When was the last time you were in a serious (two years or more) relationship?
A. Never been in one before (why do you think I'm reading this?)
B. More than six months ago (but less than one year ago)
C. More than one year ago (but less than two years)
D. More than two years ago
11. When it comes to hard issues like financial status, religion and STDs, your game plan is to...
A. Never bring them up
B. Tackle them right after he says he love you
C. Tackle them as soon as you know you're falling in love with him
D. Tackle them before love is ever created
12. He says he loves you but that he's not ready for serious commitment. Your game plan is...
A. Forget about it! I'll find someone else!
B. Enjoy him and continue looking for someone else
C. Enjoy him until someone better finds you
D. Wait for him to be ready
13. If your goal is rudely snatched out before you get a chance to tell him you love him, your game plan is to...
A. Ruin his newfound bliss and bring him back to you
B. Tell him you love him and hope he changes his mind
C. Retreat into dark, damp hole and cry until tears stop
D. Move on, knowing that if he fits her, then he couldn't have fit you
14. He's terrible in bed, but otherwise, a gem of a guy. Your game plan is...
A. Ignore the sex and enjoy everything else about him
B. Give him a copy of Kamasutra
C. Read the Kamasutra yourself
D. Tell him he's terrible, and then read the Kamasutra together
15. Where is your favourite playground?
A. My school or workplace (we're supposed to 'find' each other, not look for each other)
B. The club circuit (I look my best when I'm clubbing)
C. My yoga class (if he wants me, he must love yoga)
D. Anywhere (it's not where you meet that counts, but who you meet)
16. Your goal is in sight, you've made up your mind: he's the one. Your next move is to...
A. Tell him I love him (it's now or never, right?)
B. Do the bump-and-grind (let's seal the deal, baby)
C. Move in with him
D. Take a break from him (I need to stay rational)
17. When a fight breaks out, your game plan is to...
A. Fight back tooth and nail and inflict irreparable emotional damage on him
B. Fight back, but retire if things get too bad
C. Keep quiet and forever hold my peace
D. Keep quiet and disclose my opinions later when things have cooled off
18. Your target partner...
A. Loves you unconditionally
B. Meets you lip-to-lip (and hip-to-hip)
C. Has a lot in common with you
D. Has strengths that complement your weakness
19. He is a spendthrift, whilst you are frugal. Your game plan is...
A. Take advantage of it (if he wants to buy me stuff, who am I to complaint?)
B. Ignore it (it's his money, after all)
C. Change it (his spending habits will affect my financial security too)
D. Accept it (and if I can't accept it, then I should look for someone else)
20. Compared to you, your ideal partner must:
A. Earn less than I do
B. Earn more than I do
C. Earn the same as I do
D. I don't care
21. How many real dates does it take before you decide if he's the one?
A. One (how many more does a girl need?)
B. Two to five (I'm easily bored)
C. Six to nine (my clock is ticking)
D. At least ten (but I don't really limit myself that way)
22. You think children are...
A. A pain in the rear end
B. Nice to see, but not to hold
C. Nice to hold, but not to keep
D. Nice to seem hold and keep
23. If you sense that a competitor has her sights on the same goal as you, your game plan is to...
A. Move in for the kill (as in him - better score before she does)
B. Move in for the kill (as in her - go flash your rump elsewhere, bitch!)
C. Know your enemy (she might make a good sparring partner)
D. Know your enemy (she might fit him batter than I)
24. In your past relationship, did you do the dumping, or were you the one dumped?
A. I've never been dumped
B. I wan the one dumped
C. I'd say 50-50
D. It's in the past, so who cares?
25. To you, the most important indicator of true love is in...
A. The chemistry of your first meaning
B. The resolution of your first conflict
C. The passion of your shared interests
D. The respect of your mutual differences
26. What is your relationship like with your past boyfriends?
A. Humph! (Don't ask!)
B. Cool (we’re not friends, but we're not enemies, either)
C. Friendly (we can talk about the weather if we want to)
D. Warm (how can you not cherish someone you once shared so much with?)
27. When the goings gets tough and the game seems like it will never end, who is your cheerleading couch?
A. Mummy
B. My best friend
C. My ex-boyfriend
D. Myself
28. When it comes to personal space, your plan is to...
A. Keep what's mine and let him have what's his
B. Keep what's mine and take some of what's his
C. Give him some of mine and let him keep what's his
D. Stretch our boundaries to accommodate each other's preferences
29. Are your parents still together?
A. No (they divorced yeas ago)
B. No (they only recently separated)
C. Yes (but its borderline togetherness
D. Yes (they seem happy most of the time)
30. Finally, when do you think your target partner will need you most?
A. When he's broke (of course)
B. When he wants to get laid
C. When he suffers a big disappointment (he'll need to pick-me-up)
D. When he suffers a confidence crisis (I'll need to remind him how great he is)
RESULTS
Mostly As: Playing to date
To you, the future of any romantic relationship is encapsulated in the first moment that you meet. That initial connection can happen because of sexual attraction, a meeting of minds, an emotional bond or even religious intensity.
Regardless of what it is that sparks it off, when you make a strong connection and your palm sweat and time stops, then you assume the person to be your lifelong prize and you make yourself ready to claim him.
Unfortunately, as you have no doubt learned already, a strong connection is not the same thing as being in love. Sorry, but there is no such thing as love at first sight, unless it is by pure coincidence.
Connection is important between any two people who want to pursue a relationship, but it is only the first step. You can connect with many people over the course of your lifetime, but is it only by following through on the rest of the steps that you can know if this is truly the love of your life.
Mostly Bs: Playing to mate
Exploring the playing field, experiencing different emotions with different people and enjoying the multifarious stimuli that come from all the experimenting make this game a joy to play. You are a player like the vast majority of women - an experienced dater who is now ready for something more. Strong connections are plenty but you know where is more to it than that.
You know, for example, the type of man that you are looking for. However, whilst you have a pretty good idea of what he must be to you, you have still not decided what you will be to him and the answer to that lies in how you love yourself. How you relate to your personal self sets the tone of how you relate to others, and is vitally important for a serious relationship to thrive.
If your objective is to play the game of love to win, then learning self-love is the first step you must take. Before you can roll dice or even place your playing piece on the board, you need to tap into the inner reaches of your heart and soul and discover all that you are worth.
Mostly Cs: Playing to love
Commitment to one man literally means One Man Only. Unfortunately, your answers belie a modus vivendi that is not yet ready for monogamy. In other words, you like your life the way it is, and are not yet ready to make the scarifies that a serious long-term relationship need in order to thrive. If you enjoy sex, for example, than you might be interested in settling down with one man because he makes the earth move for you. Sadly, even the spunkiest, most exciting sex partner can get a little dull around the tip after a while.
The same goes for shared passions like cooking, sports, hobbies or even work: if you hook up with him for no other reason than one or two common interests, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Why? Because people change, and their interests change with them. There is no guarantee that he will enjoy sex (or cooking, or badminton, or computer programming, or collecting match boxes) as much as you will in 10 years' time.
If a relationship is based upon shared activities and they crease, then what is left? A couple who comes together because of a shared love for skiing must be able to relate when the snow melts in the springtime.
Mostly Ds: Playing to win
The hallmark of every great winner is that she makes things happen instead of waiting for things to happen, which very aptly described you. You know the rules of the game very well. You don't actually fall under the spell of love, because active part in weaving the spell yourself, thereby creating the love you want, wish the person you want.
Love does not just happen. It needs to be created in much the same ways as you would create anything else. Love is created from your imagination, intention and development.
Love is a two-way street, and what you put into a relationship is as important - if not more so - than what you hope to get out of it. You know this instinctively. Once you meet the right man, you can count on it blossoming into a loving, long-term relationship that will be ready for all tests of time and circumstance, And since you are prepare to win, win you will.
by Adrienne
2.09am
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